CRITICISM: There are two types of criticism. There is what is called Destructive criticism and what is called constructive criticism. The former is unhealthy and the latter is healthy. Destructive criticism is a vicious and malicious type of criticism where one is criticized just to flatten their ego, rubbish their personality, malign their character and drag their reputation to the mud. This type of criticism is meant to destroy, portray the other in a bad light, make them look bad, bring them to disrepute and spoil their good name. This type of criticism is meant to harm, to demonize and to bring the other down. Destructive criticism never serves a good purpose. It is from its name very destructive. On the other hand, constructive criticism is the type of criticism intended to correct, to edify, to help one become better, to assist the other person grow, become more self aware and to be good at what they are doing. Constructive criticism is done in love and charity, in humility and understanding and it is always for the good of the other. It is a well intentioned kind of criticism where you mean well and wish well for the other person. It is the best kind of criticism where one is critiqued to Improve, grow, challenged to be the best version of themselves. We all need criticism in order to survive and be successful in life. I prefer constructive criticism rather than flatter. It is only a sincere person, someone who cares about your future, who has your good at heart that would muster the courage to constructively critique you. Constructive criticism at a time may not be comfortable, it can be painful at times, it may appear mean, it may even be erroneously misconstrued sometimes that we are hated that’s why we are been criticized or that we are not good enough or has not done enough, but it is all for our good, destiny, future and overall self development. Constructive criticism calls our attention to things we don’t know, brings out the best in us, redirects us, puts us in the right track and path and makes us champions. Constructive criticism pays. In sports, we need constructive criticism, in work places and in our various careers, we need constructive criticism, in school, we need constructive criticism, in our spiritual life we need constructive criticism, in our families, we need constructive criticism. None of us sees our back. We need someone to tell us what our back looks like. A friend criticizes constructively while enemies and haters criticizes destructively. Let us take criticism in good light and in good faith. It is one of the ways we learn. It shows we are loved. Someday we will look back and say thank you to all who constructively criticized you. It is more profitable to be around people who constructively criticizes you than to be around fake friends who flatters you by misguiding you and telling you all you want to hear to make you feel good. Do not be mad at criticism. Set aside your ego, pride and take the criticism in good spirit, it will avail you much…..Ifee Ifee(For paid invitations to speak, speaking engagements, remarks, comments and reactions, email me at speakingengagement81@gmail.com)
