HUMAN IMPERFECTIONS AND JUDGMENTAL ATTITUDE: Who is perfect? Who is without weakness? Who among us has no flaws? Every human person is struggling with at least one bad habit, bad character, misbehavior and a challenge that they always find difficult to overcome or come out from. Every human person is always inclined towards evil more than towards good. We naturally find it easier to sin rather than doing good. Our human nature is corrupt. We find sin more attractive and we are easily drawn towards what is wrong. Knowing that we are not perfect, we should stop seeing ourselves as better than every body. When we come to that point of self awareness, we can learn to put aside our holier than thou attitude. Knowing we are not perfect helps us not to be pointing accusing finger on the other person. Each of us is struggling at least with one particular sin and by the way sin is sin. The more we accept our frail, imperfect human nature, the less we judge other people and become more understanding. The human person is not made to judge other people because we are limited and our judgement too is limited. For one to judge another person, you have to consider three things: the object of the action, the intention of the action and the circumstances surrounding the action. If you figure out the circumstances and the object of the action which are always external, how then do you figure out the intention of the action which is more of internal. Therefore human judgement is flawed and invalid. If we have never being in people’s shoes, if you don’t know their story, if you don’t know where they started and how far they have come along to where they are, then it’s not fair to judge them. Rather than judging people, we can try to listen to them, hear from them, try to understand them, put yourself in their shoes, walk the path they have walked. No one is above mistake, everyone has a past, the older we get, we learn from our mistakes, drop some habits that has not benefited us and strive to become better. Hateful, vicious, malicious, prejudiced and biased people judge others. There is a certain law of nature that the same standard one uses to judge others would also be used against them. What goes around comes around. When you are pointing a finger at one person, the other four fingers are pointing right back at you. Narcissistic, selfish, arrogant, ego driven, self inflated people always like to judge others, for them, they know it all, they are better, they are above everyone else and they think they are smarter than everyone else. The more we mind our business, the more we focus on working on ourselves to become better than we were yesterday, , the more humble we are, the more welcoming and tolerant we are, the more kind and compassionate we are, the less judgmental we become. Judging people makes them look terrible or worse, it makes them feel guilty, it demoralizes them, especially not knowing the efforts those people are making to be better. Judging others affects their low self esteem, it can bring depression and bully. No one is perfect, we all are striving, let us support one another rather than judging them. Venatius Agbasiere(For paid invitations to speak, speaking engagements, remarks, comments and reactions, email me at speakingengagement81@gmail.com)
