Sometimes we blame ourselves unnecessarily for things that we are not part of nor have control over.
Sometimes we are too hard and harsh on ourselves because of things that we are completely and entirely innocent of.
Sometimes we apologize for things we don’t even know anything about.
There are certain things, conditions and situations that is totally out of our control and surely not our fault.
It is not your fault that you are born the way you are born.
It is not your fault that you came from the family you are born into.
It is not your fault that you are born into a particular race.
It is not your fault that you are born as a man or a woman.
It is not of your own making that you are born into a certain culture, country and religion.
You should stop apologizing to people for who you are or for what is no fault of yours.
You should stop living in guilt for things you did not do.
Always remember and understand that there are things that happened in your life that you have no control over.
Therefore it is not fair to yourself to continue to beat yourself up.
Learn to cut yourself a slack.
There are certain things we have done in the past that is completely our fault and of our own making. That i understand.
But there are other things that is totally not our fault.
You may be a good wife or a good husband and your spouse walked away, it may not be your fault, it may be theirs.
Sometimes, the reason why you are fired from that job may not be your fault, it may be because someone doesn’t like you which is their problem not yours and they fired you or because the company, firm or organization is downsizing.
Maybe, it is not your fault that you were rejected, it may be just because the other person is to blind to see the good in you.
Sometimes you are in a situation you found yourself because of someone else’s prejudice, bias and racism. Nothing to do with you.
Someone may be mistreating you, it has nothing to do with you, maybe the person mistreating you is having some issues with himself or herself.
Some victims of abuse always think it is their fault they were abused, it is not.
Stop blaming yourself, stop turning against yourself, do not rush into conclusions or make hasty judgments, it may not have anything to do with you.
It is not your fault that your children went off course. You are a good parent, you raised them well and now they choose to go towards another direction and you are there as a parent blaming yourself. It is not your fault.
Maybe there is something i have done wrong.
Maybe there is something i did not do right.
Maybe i should have done more
Maybe i caused it somehow.
Maybe i am not good enough.
Maybe i did not work harder.
Maybe i could have done more?
Maybe i could have done something.
Maybe i could have intervened.
Maybe i should have known better.
Maybe i should have saw this coming.
Excuse me!
you need to stop mounting unnecessary pressure on yourself.
Maybe you need to take it easy with yourself.
How could you have known how things would turn out.
It is okay to admit your fault when you are wrong, that is honesty, integrity and maturity.
It is always good to take responsibility for your actions.
It is not good to apportion blames.
But it is not good either to accept what is not your fault.
It is not your fault the weather is cold.
It is not your fault the weather is too hot.
It is not your fault, it is raining.
stop thinking and believing that everything wrong in this world is your fault. When you think that way, then there is a problem.
There is already enough things against us in this world, we cannot afford to be against ourselves at the same time.
If it is not your fault, it is not your fault.
Suck it up.
Time to move on.
You have done your best, you have no control of the outcome. No matter how it comes out or turns out to be, accept it in good fate and quit the self blame.
Make sure you do your part and embrace whatever comes out of it.
Stop looking for an issue where there is no issue.
Stop looking for something where there is nothing.
Stop looking for smoke where there is no fire.