I want to talk about this melodramatic marriage proposals that has become the order of the Day now in Nigeria. In Nigeria, we tend to overdo things and overdramatize things, we often take things too far and do it more than the people we learn it from or from those we copied it from. Social media in recent times have been inundated with videos of marriage proposals including the fake ones, the rejected ones, the ones gone wrong and the ones just meant to be a Stunt. Marriage is a serious affair. Marriage is not for boys and girls but for men and women. Marriage is for the mature not only in the body but in mind and in thinking. Marriage is not a child’s play. It is not something to make fun of or to be trivialized or to be rather reduced to a public optics and drama. How can you take someone by surprise,sweeping them off their feet by suddenly proposing to them without having a conversation and ascertaining whether the person is ready or not, whether they want to take things to the next level or not. Is it really necessary to put up a stunt or a dramatic scenario to be able to propose. Do you really need a crowd and myriads of camera and videos rolling and recording and snapping for you to propose? Unfortunately we live in a time and day everyone wants to show off even things that don’t need to. Some people’s proposals are rejected and declined publicly and they feel embarrassed, humiliated and disgraced in the public and it serves them right. Certain things are meant to be in a private, the main wedding ceremony could be open to public. There is need for open dialogue, heart to heart conversation, honest and sincere communication between the two people involved. There are certain things to consider before you say I do or yes. Marriage is for life. It is not something that is rushed into. It takes time. Some people are good for friends but not for marriage truth be told. Ability to draw the line or set the boundary between a friend material and a marriage material is what makes one mature. Our young people should reconsider this scenic type of marriage proposals

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